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Heading toward the jagged coastline, a mourning dove flies over the terracotta roof tiles that cover the elegant Spanish Colonial homes of Santa Barbara. To the east, the Santa Ynez Mountains rise dramatically from the town, offering majestic vistas of a crisp clear blue sky kissing the aquamarine waters of the Pacific Ocean. Seductive Brazilian music mixes in with the light chatter of partygoers. We are here on a breathtaking bluff to celebrate old friends.

And so begins the first few moments of Nancy Meyers’ film, It’s Complicated. Even before I see Meryl Streep banter with Alec Baldwin, I’m totally hooked and dying to see the inside of the house. I long to live the life of a Nancy Meyers character and I can easily satisfy my fantasies on any device, thanks to Netflix.

Movies offer the best armchair travel. I don’t have to worry about lost luggage or getting ripped off at a tourist trap. I get to see the most romantic version of a city through the fabulous life of someone else. I can’t imagine walking down the steps of Montmartre on a crisp autumn day without hearing Edith Piaf’s La Vie En Rose blaring out from the open window of someone’s posh atelier. The Eiffel Tower, lit up in all its glory, becomes my North Star as I walk alone over the Pont Neuf, envying the Gitane smoking lovers. It becomes clear that the romance of Paris is the only thing that can mend my broken heart. Yet, I don’t actually have to be there to feel as if I’m experiencing it.

Of all the filmmakers who can make me fall in love with a time and place, no one does it better than Ms. Meyers. She just doesn’t take me to a location, she let’s me live in it along side her affluent, slightly neurotic characters that always seem to be looking for lasting love. The weather is as perfect and cheery as her storyline and it only rains for dramatic effect. She can make me feel the cool air rushing in as the day’s heat dies away with the descent of the sun into the sea.

It’s this snapshot of a charmed life that Ms. Meyers is so good at creating. It lies somewhere between truth, fantasy and longing. Take Jane, for example, Meryl Streep’s character in It’s Complicated. She’s a fifty-something divorcée who has raised three nearly perfect kids, lives in a graciously appointed home with an impeccable kitchen that she thinks needs remodeling, and has Rita Wilson, Mary Kay Place and Ali Wentworth as best friends. They’re the type of friends that really know and love you, not in spite of your quirks and foibles, but because of them. Instead of wearing old sweatpants and downing a pint of Haagen Dazs when things go wrong, they get together in their tunics from the chicest boutiques, eat Jane’s homemade lattice topped pies, and drink Chardonnay. How bad could their problems be?

In reality, Jane’s house is an hour south of Santa Barbara in Hidden Valley and the asking price is $12 million. Only the exterior shots were filmed there. The sumptuous interiors were designed by Jon Hutman and Beth Rabino and shot on a sound stage in Greenpoint, Brooklyn. But, that’s OK. I don’t mind suspending my disbelief if I get to hang out in their world for two hours. I admit it, every time I watch the film — and I’ve seen it far too many times — I have been known to check out the current real estate prices in Santa Barbara.

In her film, The Holiday, Meyers creates a fantasy within a fantasy. The two lead characters, both let down by love, switch homes with hopes to escape their heartache. Kate Winslet’s character, Iris, lives in a charming English cottage set quietly outside the storybook village of Surrey, just southwest of London. She’s as warm and cozy as her sweet little stone house that’s heated by a tiny wood-burning fireplace. It’s Christmas time and there’s just the right amount of snow dusting the narrow cobblestone streets. The locals make their way into quaint corner pubs with names like “The Dog and Pheasant” and “The Grumpy Mole.”

By contrast, Amanda, played by Cameron Diaz, is a Hollywood movie trailer producer who lives in an Architectural Digest inspired villa complete with swimming pool and gardener. The kitchen is one of a professional chef’s dreams and there’s an entertainment room with multiple remotes to turn on a wall filled with state-of-the-art electronics. The shades in the bedroom even have black out curtains that can go down at the flick of a switch. It’s not surprising that when the taxi turns onto Sunset Boulevard, Iris’s mouth is agape as Beverly Hills comes into view. Admiring the excesses of wealth, she passes manicured gardens and palm trees hiding the lavish mansions she longs to see. As she opens the door to Amanda’s house, she can’t believe her good fortune, screaming gleefully as she checks out each of the many sleekly decorated rooms. Iris is living the Nancy Meyer’s fantasy in a Nancy Meyer’s film and I’m right there with her.

My own experience in LA was not quite the same. I was working there on a project for about four months and I needed a place to stay. Of course, with the movie in mind, I searched AirBNB, hoping to find a place just like Amanda’s. It became quickly apparent that I couldn’t even afford to park my car in Beverly Hills. All I could manage was a tiny one-bedroom bungalow tucked away in someone’s overgrown backyard in West Hollywood. I was told that Renée Zellweger had once lived there before she was Renée Zellweger, so that offered a touch of tinseltown allure. It almost made up for the leaking toilet and constant rattle from the nearby dry cleaner’s air conditioner.

Ms. Meyer’s take on Manhattan’s nightlife in the first few moments of Something’s Gotta Give makes the Upper East Side seem sexy and filled with only the young and beautiful. Long-legged girls in short dresses work their way past the bridge and tunnel riff raff as they cut the line for easy entry into the club-of-the-week. The taxis come and go, their lights reflecting in the late summer rain puddles. But I hear no honking or city cacophony, only the thumping beat of the soundtrack. In less than a minute, I am transported to the fantasy version of the city that never sleeps.

But can real life ever live up to the romance and hype created in the movies? As a native New Yorker, I spend most of my days crushed in a subway on my way to and from work. I order in Seamless for lunch and work too many hours. I step in gum on the street and get hassled for loose change. I am no different than most New Yorkers, except that I am a hopeless romantic and watch far too many rom-coms.

It’s the week before Christmas, and New York is magical with holiday lights hanging over the avenues like strings of shimmering diamond necklaces. Storefront windows along Fifth Avenue are dressed with oversized ornaments and mannequins dressed as Santa’s helpers. People are loaded down with shopping bags and rushing about waiting for the dazzling light show projected against the walls at Saks.

I’m on a first date and we just finished dinner at a cute French bistro in the mid-fifties and decide to walk a bit. We nudge our way past the rushing masses and find a spot at the southwest corner of Rockefeller Center to admire the magnificent 75-foot Norway spruce Christmas tree. With its thousands of twinkling lights, it is more magnificent in person than any NBC-TV special can ever show. He reaches for my hand and the orchestra swells in my head. It is a movie moment. The smoky aroma of chestnuts roasting on the coals of the nearby street carts wafts past us as we share our first kiss.

It’s been 36 years since that day and every Christmas I drag my husband into the city to stand in that very spot where our magic began. He begrudgingly indulges my flare for the romantic, never admitting that he enjoys our annual ritual just as much as I do. As if on cue, the snow starts to lightly fall from the sky as he takes my hand and pulls me close. The sound system from the ice skating rink below is playing “Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas.” As we cuddle and watch the skaters, it is in that moment I realize, I actually do live in a Nancy Meyers movie.


  1. Marcie Katz on January 9, 2024 at 8:34 pm

    I love this story Karen! How cute you two have that tradition every Christmas!

    • Karen on January 9, 2024 at 9:10 pm

      Thanks Marcie – glad you liked it! Xo

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